The effect of ADHD on your child’s relationships

It’s pretty clear how ADHD affects school performance, but it is not quite obvious how attention disorders may also be disrupting your child’s social relationships.

Consider this fairly typical scenario: Bobby is 9 years old, and finds it difficult to keep up with the homework he receives every day in school. He quickly learns that no matter how hard he tries to listen and remain attentive, he cannot do so consistently throughout the day. He tries to cope with his inability to keep up by chatting, kidding, and teasing other children around him. In time, this type of disruptive behavior leads to conflict with the teacher and the other children.
Repeated failure of this nature in learning situations and group activities can lead to a chronic sense of frustration. After a while, Bobby finds it nearly impossible to make up all the material he’s missed. He develops a negative self-image and low self-esteem. And we know how important self-esteem is in building relationships with peers, siblings, and adults.
The ADHD child’s difficulties in reading social clues directly affect his impaired social skills. Impulsivity often plays a key role in his social interactions, causing the children to become involved in arguments, fights, and social drama. This adds to the stigma attached to him, and sometimes leads to outright social rejection.

How does ADHD affect your child’s relationship with parents and siblings?

Without being aware of it, children with ADD/ADHD can have a negative effect on the entire family dynamic because of their attention difficulties. Small problems add up and gain epic proportions. For example, the hours required to finish homework can throw off the time management of the entire household; the child’s keeps misplacing his jacket, backpack, and mobile phone, leaving parents feeling overwhelmed and helpless; he doesn’t do his household chores, like tidying his room, clearing his dishes from the table or his shoes from the entranceway, annoying and frustrating everyone who must constantly pick up after him.
The parents, busy all day long putting out small fires, often don’t have enough time for the rest of the family, or even for each other, which can place a great deal of strain on relationships. Parents often vent their accumulated negative feelings on each other. Arguments erupt. Parents blame and criticize each other over preferential treatment of the ADHD child, but in reality because of the general sense of stress and anxiety resulting from the many little difficulties that add up over time.

Is there a solution?

The more quickly and effectively the attention disorder is dealt with, the better your ADHD child will be able to maintain and nurture his relationships both inside and outside the family circle.
Once the attention disorder receives proper treatment, your child will be much more calm, relaxed, and attentive. His tendency to disrupt and irritate others will diminish and eventually stop.
Of course, you can resort to medication, but at times this is not enough. Because ADHD manifests both cognitively and behaviorally, there are many treatment approaches. For example, AttenGo’s neurocognitive training system, which directly affects neuro-cognitive brain activity, is aimed at bolstering attention, concentration, and memory. AttenGo conducts an initial assessment to determine the level of difficulty and offers a program personalized for each child, matched for age (6 and older) and severity of symptoms.
After several weeks of consistent training the brain starts to “get it.” The learned ability for greater focus and concentration is stored as a sensorimotor memory, similarly to other learned processes such as swimming or bike riding. These newly acquired cognitive abilities are not forgotten but become integrated into the child’s cognitive patterns.
Our experience in treating thousands of children and adults demonstrates that with consistent drilling most of our trainees experience significant, demonstrable results. We provide full online support to answer any questions you may have along the way.

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